tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6720584839926659691.post4475231892105162780..comments2012-02-28T15:26:58.160-08:00Comments on My Stay At Home (SAH) Life: A New Year, A New MeValeriehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12492562154014355286noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6720584839926659691.post-16209343352977253822011-01-06T19:24:11.985-08:002011-01-06T19:24:11.985-08:00Thanks! It's always good to know how others de...Thanks! It's always good to know how others deal with similar struggles!Valeriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12492562154014355286noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6720584839926659691.post-48402995972475395352011-01-05T17:46:18.441-08:002011-01-05T17:46:18.441-08:00I can really relate to the part about having high ...I can really relate to the part about having high expectations with kids. I was like this as a teacher, and now I am at times with my son and the kids I look after. I think it's good to have high expectations, to a point. Sometimes, I find, with myself, I keep raising these expectations. When children don't meet them, I may struggle more to have them meet them. Then I end up feeling guilty because I can just 'feel' that it's not working, and I know I'm expecting too much. Upon reflecting on this over the past few months though, I don't think we need to feel guilty - our great expectations come from good intentions. Really, we just end up frustrating ourselves. Now, I am WAY better at realizing when I am becoming frustrated. I am now more likely to take a deep breath and let it go. I'm far from perfect in this area, but I think we just need to constantly remind ourselves that they have no idea what OUR agenda is. They are just being. I don't agree with being lax with kids at all. I would still consider myself to have high expectations. But for those times when it's 'just not working', and I'm getting frustrated, it feels so good just to breathe, and realize that it really isn't that important that the child learn this or that today. And I don't need to feel that I'm a failure if they don't learn this or that today! Hope this convoluted message helps in some small way! It just really resonated for me.Charlahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09808999790719274074noreply@blogger.com